it's not about the nail

Expert: Women Abuse as Often as Men

Expert: Women Abuse as Often as Men Professor Murray Straus tells Arutz Sheva: People refuse to believe it, but women abuse men just as much as men abuse women. By Yoni Kempinski Domestic violence is not one-sided, Professor Murray Straus of the University of New Hampshire told Arutz Sheva on Monday. Straus participated at the two-day conference entitled "Violence, Conflicts and Unity in Family Context: A Reappraisal of Therapeutic and Judicial Doctrines." The conference is being held at the Ariel University. “The bottom line is that in domestic violence, about the same percentage of women assault their partners as men,” he said. “Women are more often injured, but that doesn’t change the fact that women attack as often as men.” Prof. Straus admitted that he’s been censored in the past for saying that domestic violence is not one-sided, because “generally people refuse to believe it, despite a lot of scientific evidence showing that these are the facts. There are 230 studies, as of several months ago, and yet people refuse to believe it. Everyone is supposed to know that men do this - and they do it, but so do women.” The solution to ending domestic violence, he said, is that “if we’re going to end violence against women, we have to take steps to end violence by women.” The opposition to Prof. Straus, he said, “comes from people who believe that the main cause of domestic violence is male dominance. And that is an important cause, but it’s only one of many causes and not even the most important cause. This group of people are fanatics. They insist on a single cause, and that it’s men who are the problem. Well, men are the problem, but so are women.

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Blessed are You, O God, King of the Universe, Who created everything for His glory (The Marriage Ritual).

The surging divorce rate in recent years is appalling. While the Torah indeed provides for dissolving a relationship, there has never been in Jewish history anything like the current number of failed marriages.

Perhaps the problem stems from the partners' primary goals as they enter marriage. In Western civilization, what is called "love" has been accepted as the cornerstone of marriage. Unfortunately, this "love" too often refers to an attraction for the partner because of how he or she can gratify the other's physical and emotional needs. If this primary goal is not adequately met, the cement of the relationship disintegrates, and secondary factors alone cannot maintain it.

In the past, the primary focus of a marriage was the establishment of a family. [The first mitzvah found in the Torah is be fruitful and multiply (Genesis 1:28).] While physical and emotional needs were important, they were not primary, but secondary. Hence, when problems of this nature did develop, the relationship was still held together by the primary binding forces, and these secondary problems could be rectified and resolved.

Today I shall ...
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try to realize what the true primary goals of my relationship with others should be.

Four Ways to Marry the Wrong Person

A wedding tragedy:

A wedding tragedy:

To marry a man for love, and then find out he has no money!

.................... is the chief cause of divorce

Groucho Marx:
"Marriage is the chief cause of divorce."

Marriage and Love

Marriage...Marriage is an institution. Love is blind. Therefore, marriage is an institution for the blind.Love...When we know to read our own hearts, we acquire wisdom of thehearts of others