IMHO, parents need to be very involved. However, what does that really mean?
If parents were looking out truly for the children, then yes, of course they (both) should be involved.
What is happening today is the opposite. Parents are looking what are best for them not for the children! Which is why this shiduchim business is getting worse?
Therefore, between untrained shadchunim, uneducated daters, and confused parents, I truly wonder what the present and the future hold.
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"What is happening today is the opposite. Parents are looking what are best for them not for the children!"
Isn't that what has traditionally gone on all over the world where there were marriages arranged by parents? Usually parents arranged marriages that were beneficial for the family's finances and social status with what the children want in a spouse being second place at best.
TL: traditionally people didn't want much. : )
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