Why does it seem that people think that the reason to marry is once you are married, "you live happily ever after"? Moreover, since, nowadays, they cannot see that happening; they are not interested and would rather stay “single happily ever after”?
It seems the commercial world, and/or parents protecting their children from society, have produced a real fantasy world. High and unreal expectations are a minimum and a must.
Everyone is "complaining"!! You read it in the Jewish newspapers, magazines, blogs and, you name it.
The fault and blame are being thrown on the system, the parents, the shadchunim, and even on the boys and girls themselves.
Some are saying the boys are on drugs, the girls are anorexic or fat, and therefore there is fear on both sides of the aisle. Other reasons include, the boys and girls are either too frum or the opposite. There are endless reasons.
What about the good old reason of bringing up a Jewish generation and being good fathers and mothers?
We have come to believe that we can now have both worlds. Personally, I think one can have that if they realize the true earthly world and they have no expectations. However, if we take this world and paint it truly false, of course, the divorce rate will keep going up.
So who is really losing?
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