Why do husbands not want to come home?

A well respected surgeon was relaxing on his sofa one evening
just after arriving home from work. As he was tuning into the
evening news, the phone rang. The doctor calmly answered it and
heard the familiar voice of a colleague on the other end of the
line.

"We need a fourth for poker," said the friend.

"I'll be right over," whispered the doctor.

As he was putting on his coat, his wife asked, "Is it serious?"

"Oh yes, quite serious," said the doctor gravely. "In fact,
three doctors are there already!"

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The cartoon above and the joke illustrate the reality of many marriages.

As the saying goes, "it takes two to tangle.”

There is no doubt that the blame, seeming always one sided especially to the parties themselves, is if looked upon honestly, and objectively, is truly on both.

What I find now, as a shadchun more than ever before, is that this "truth" is becoming a sizeable chunk of the reason why the dating scene is so frustrating.

People are seeking someone who will continue to grow, and most people will not.
People are realizing more than ever before that they will not change their spouses.
To sum it all up, after this picture emerges in many minds, despair and hopelessness sets.

Aside from the truly religious who marry mostly for procreation of the Jewish people and that is the prime and only reason, no matter what the cost, I, as a shadchun do not see where the rest of the Jewish people are going to get.

Hashem help and enlighten us all.