The Mishpacha family weekly has just concluded a 3 part series about the shiduch scene, which I would recommend to read.
I found this among other observations intriguing.
Regarding whether to use one's inner voice to guide one's decision, one shadchunit expressed it this way.
"The problem with the inner voice is that it only works if you're not clouded. If you're filled with baggage from the galus of Hollywood, your inner voice is muffled. You're not going to receive a clear message. Very few people hear a clear message.
"Finding your other half is not a decision. It's a revelation. And people shouldn't be rushed or pushed in the process. NO one should ever force a person to think a certain way. You need a person that you trust, to help uncover what you really feel inside, but the final decision about what you really feel is your own. "
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One of the problems today is that things are a lot more complicated than the were in the shtetl days in Europe.
There are fewer and fewer kosher enviroments in where to meet a frum
girl. Shadchin dating is not for everyone. There should be better ways for them to interact so as to get to know each other in a more casual atmosphere.
JB: shadchin dating is coming back with a NEW twist, that will be taking the old , present and the future by storm.
Hashem yaazor, and Hashem wants it now
Your "new twist" is just the old hat with a new spin. I still havent seen it working any beter than the old way.
Karl:
what HAVE you seen that u r so critical?
how can u criticize something u have absolutely no info about?
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