"I am serving supper now !!"

"I am serving supper now !!" -

Is this a sign of servitude or is it a command? How did the word serve come in here, or was it always that the wife was a servant?

Does the fact that the husband was the "provider" make him the Boss/Owner/Lord?

Does the fact that the roles have changed or become equal redefine this marriage relationship? What about where the roles have NOT changed?